Learn How To Save Your Marriage
Get Yourself in Shape to Win Back Your Mate:
It's important for you to take care of yourself before you try to fix your relationship. If you've been on a long-distance commercial airline flight, you'll probably remember the safety instructions that if oxygen masks are released, put on your own mask first before you put a mask on your child.If you don't take care of yourself first, you won't be able to help anyone else.By the same token, if you don't nurture yourself first, you won't be in any shape to nurture your marriage.
By following the 10 action steps, you'll begin to make progress toward creating the kind of relationship that will be rewarding for you and your spouse.
1. Define Fair Fighting Rules (Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves)
2. Avoid Fruitless Arguments (One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory)
3. Checkout Your Assumptions(There are no shortcuts to any place worth going)
4. Be Sensitive to Your Spouse's Reactions(The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it open)
5. Decide What's Changeable (You decide what it is you want to accomplish and then lay out your plans to get there, and then you just do it)
6. Take Responsibility for Your Part (When you blame others, you give up your power to change)
8. Show Appreciation(I can live two months on a good compliment)
9. Use Professional Help (In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves)
10. Know When to Lighten Up (Total absence of humor render life impossible)
When people are married they sometimes assume their partner knows how they feel about each other. But the truth is that everyone's feelings about most things are not written in stone, but instead are variable.
The words "I love you" have a magical effect in reminding your spouse of the reason she chose to be with you in the first place. Say those words to your mate at least once a day. Acknowledging your love can put any conflict into a context that makes recovery from bad feelings easier. And saying "I love you" can be preventive maintenance that keeps a relationship from going downhill.
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