Showing posts with label Culture. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Culture. Show all posts

Sunday, January 3, 2010

ENJOYING THE TRIP TO SWITZERLAND IN CAR

Switzerland is the paradise on the earth and every season thousands of tourists flock from different parts of Europe, Asia and America in Switzerland to enjoy the charming surroundings. Enjoyment can reach to an extreme extent if the tourists travel by a car in Switzerland. For the best tourist can hire a car and the Car rental switzerland is the best option one can avail. car hire Basel Airport, avail the car with all the updated comfort facilities and all at a reasonable rate. Summer is the peak season when the tourist across the globe arrived in Switzerland. In this period of rush car hire Altenrhein Airport provides all types of cars in accordance with the demands of the tourists and that is also at their expectations.

Car hire service offer by car hire Basel airport maintained a specific time for picking and dropping of the tourists but that time also varies in accordance with season. But the comfort they get in the cars supplied by car hire Altenrhein Airport and car hire Basel airport make the tourist to feel that they are under the royal care. In fact finding and hiring a car which deliver a perfect service is a very tiresome activity in an unknown country, but car rental Switzerland is the only solution to this problem.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Indian Culture - The Modern Amalgamation

Indian culture is one of the most complicated around. It's a vast country with huge culture differences but it's still possible to find some things in common everywhere you go, Bollywood, India's equivalent to Hollywood and the other is sport. Cricket is huge in India and every village or street you work down you'll find numerous games taking place, most of which you will be invited to join in. Big games like those between India and Australia, England and especially Pakistan are cause for huge celebrations and amount to pretty much a national holiday. You'll find massive, excited crowds around television shops, games going on everywhere you look but most noticeably the singing and dancing that company's these sorts of special events. English football is also hugely popular out there and a huge topic of conversation between natives and foreigners so it's worth investing a little time in finding a favourite team and also learning the names of the English cricket team, both of which I failed to do before I left and felt a little ashamed after every encounter!

One of the most enjoyable aspects of Indian culture that I encountered was their love for singing and dancing. I remember taking a ferry to Elephanta Island, outside and Bombay and the whole boat burst into song and dance for no apparent reason and it continued for the entire duration of the journey! Of course, me and my friend being the only westerners on the boat were dragged up onto the Dance floor and proceeded to sing our rendition of Kay-sara-sara.

However popular music, films and sport are, a large part of Indian culture and a hot topic of conversation, whether it be lowly farmers or swanky business owners, is politics. Indians take more interest in the politics of their own country than any other I have come across. For good reason too, India's political history is probably one of the most exciting of any country and is riddled with assassinations, revolutions, corruption, wars and invasions.

Another thing about Indian culture that will stand out to you when you travel is how everyday life is influenced by religions and spirituality. Early morning Puja (prayer) is performed at shrines on the sides of roads, temples, in the home and for many, in cars and buses and shopkeepers won't open for business until appropriate blessings have been made to various gods. Hinduism, the main religion in India, is greatly known for its acceptance of other religions and culture, of course history hasn't always proved that but it hasn't stopped India being populated by a whole collection of different culture and religions and attracts thousands of religious and spiritual seekers from around the world every year.

Alongside religion the family is also highly respected and central to Indian society so expect much scrutiny about this from enthusiastic locals and possibly some very disapproving head wobbles especially about marriage, sex and your parents! Most Indians regard being unmarried and with no children after the age of 25 as inconceivable let alone 30! Families are core to most Indians and when you chat with the locals you realise how important their extended family are to them, often with uncles, aunts, grandparents, kids and siblings all living under one roof and sometimes in one room!

21st century, modern Indian culture is a huge melting pot of time honored tradition and new age technology, money and western influence. Modern business women carry mobile phones down the street next to old women in colourful saries carrying buckets of water on their heads, flash cars parked next to slums and a whole host of juxtapositions that are enough to give you a headache! However strange this might sound the contrasting lifestyles blend together with real beauty.

The age old caste (class) system in India is dieing out slowly but remnants remain although mainly in rural areas. Over the years it has been a main reason for disgusting cruelty, genocide and corruption. It's a hugely complex part of Indian culture and society but can be broken down into about five levels. At the top are the Brahmins or the holy men and land owners down to the Dalits or the 'untouchables' as they were known. It seems that within each caste there are subclasses, people who performed different tasks in the community ie. tanners were the lowest of the low and cobblers etc. The belief was that the rigid caste system kept the universe in perfect balance and if the person lived a good and honest life they would be reincarnated into the caste above.

One of my favorite aspects of the Indian people is the head wobble. It is hard to go a day in India without being subjected to the infamous headwobble. It can be translated as yes, no, maybe, don't care, go away and millions of other things. It was the subject of many discussions between me and my fellow travellers while I was out there, of course everyone has there own view, however, for me it was a great method of communication with everyone. Being a westerner in some parts of India can cause a great deal of excitement and some times large crowds come to have a quick stare. A quick wobble of the head can make you a local celebrity or at least a small time comedian. It seems that if you get in your mind what you want to put across to someone, wobble your head and the simple movement becomes the thought. Its seems ridiculous but it somehow works and deserves some practice when you get there, soon you'll lose all control of your head and you'll barely have to speak!

Monday, September 8, 2008

Divorce Help: Getting Rid of Divorce Stress Now!

If you sat down for just a few minutes, you could come up with an entire list of things that a divorce is: painful, frustrating, saddening, depressing, terrible and many, many more. However, the one thing a divorce is for everyone is stressful. Stress is dangerous to our health, emotions and can leave us feeling drained and ready to give up. However, there are some great ways to get rid of stress and this article is devoted to those very things! Here is some divorce advice on getting rid of divorce stress.

Learn to Recognize When You Need Help

While we would all like to think that we are superheroes and that we can make it through everything with no help at all – it’s just not true sometimes. Divorce brings new situations, such as kids custody without the help of your spouse, paying bills and more all on your own. When you need help, ask. If you need a few minutes of peace, have a family member or friend watch the kids for an hour. If you need help with the stress, talk to a therapist. Ask for help and don’t force yourself to bear the brunt of it all by yourself.

Find an Outlet for Your Stress

Another great thing you can do is find an outlet for your stress. There are many different things that will allow you to vent and get rid of some of that anger and stress. For instance, working out is a nice way to get healthier and alleviate some of your stress. Another thing you can do is keep a journal. Write down your thoughts or feelings when you are particularly stressed and say all the things you have too much class to say out loud! This is a great way to vent and reduce your stress. Finding an outlet for your stress is very healthy and will help you to move on in a healthy, stress-free way.

Get Involved

Another thing you can do to reduce your divorce stress is get involved in something. Find a project that is worthy of your time, volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter or VA hospital or do something else that will allow you to connect. Not only will you be doing a lot of good for others who are in need, but you will be focused on something other than your divorce, which is great! This is an effective way to get rid of stress from divorce and move on with your life in a healthy, happy way.

When you are dealing with post-divorce stress, there are many different things you can do to get rid of it. By using the tips and tricks in this article, you can make a difference in your life and get rid of the stress that plagues you.

Monday, September 1, 2008

How Divorce affects Children

Divorce is a hard and trying time for the people involved. Complications often occur and depending on the reasons as to why the marriage is coming to an end there are often bitter feelings between the separated couple and when a child is involved matters often spiral even worse.

The love between a child’s parents and the love that they express to the child is everything that the child knows so when divorce is thrown into the equation the results equal traumatic. Your child will go through a series of emotions when the news that divorce is occurring reaches them, which is why it is important that you tell your child in the correct manner and you reassure them.

Divorce is sadly becoming a common event within families and if children are involved there is a lot more at stake than just a marriage. Consistency to a child is highly important; a loss of routine and a change in your child’s daily habits can have an impact on your child’s life. The reaction of a child to the news of divorce can vary depending on the child’s age and ability to accept what is going on. It is evident that younger children have a harder time dealing with divorce as they can’t fully understand what is happening.

When it comes to a child’s reaction to divorce there are certain emotions that your child will go through starting with grieving. Your child will grieve the loss of family and the daily presence and attention of two parents. After grief comes denial of what is happening. Your child will ignore the fact that the divorce is going on and will refuse to believe that it is happening.

With denial then comes realisation of what is happening, which will result in mourning, depression, mood swings as well as changes in behaviour and anger towards you as parents for allowing the divorce to happen.

Finally your child will understand and start to accept what is happening to their family. You must however remember the importance of answering your child’s questions about what is happening and reassures your child that both you and your partner still love them; this is crucial in reassuring your child that everything will be ok; things will be different but they will be ok.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Marriage Wedding

In India there is no greater event in a family than a wedding, dramatically evoking every possible social obligation, kinship bond, traditional value, impassioned sentiment, and economic resource. In the arranging and conducting of weddings, the complex permutations of Indian social systems best display themselves.

Marriage is deemed essential for virtually everyone in India. For the individual, marriage is the great watershed in life, marking the transition to adulthood. Generally, this transition, like everything else in India, depends little upon individual volition but instead occurs as a result of the efforts of many people. Even as one is born into a particular family without the exercise of any personal choice, so is one given a spouse without any personal preference involved. Arranging a marriage is a critical responsibility for parents and other relatives of both bride and groom. Marriage alliances entail some redistribution of wealth as well as building and restructuring social realignments, and, of course, result in the biological reproduction of families.

Some parents begin marriage arrangements on the birth of a child, but most wait until later. In the past, the age of marriage was quite young, and in a few small groups, especially in Rajasthan, children under the age of five are still united in marriage. In rural communities, prepuberty marriage for girls traditionally was the rule. In the late twentieth century, the age of marriage is rising in villages, almost to the levels that obtain in cities. Legislation mandating minimum marriage ages has been passed in various forms over the past decades, but such laws have little effect on actual marriage practices.

Essentially, India is divided into two large regions with regard to Hindu kinship and marriage practices, the north and the south. Additionally, various ethnic and tribal groups of the central, mountainous north, and eastern regions follow a variety of other practices. These variations have been extensively described and analyzed by anthropologists, especially Irawati Karve, David G. Mandelbaum, and Clarence Maloney.

Monday, August 4, 2008

Gathering the Bingo Fanatics of the World

If you are a bingo fanatic, you probably have played in more than one bingo websites. Sites like Mecca, Dream, Foxy, Gala, Game Village, 888 Ladies, Bet Fred, Littlewoods, Black Pool Club, and Ladbrokes are so familiar to you. And you also know that Daily Mirror and The Sun are not just tabloid websites who give you news from the most relevant to the most mundane, but they are also sites that cater to bingo players. You may have some personal reviews and ratings for these online bingo sites, and you want the online bingo players to know which site offers the best free bingo bonus or which site sucks. In Bingo Hideout, you can post your personal reviews and ratings for your online friends to see. Ever felt satisfied about a particular bingo site that you want to tell the whole world the great service they offer? Or how about itching to tell the bingo public how poor the customer service is in one online bingo site so they would be warned? You can voice your opinions through Bingo Hideout. Either you post a review, or you can also share your opinions in the friendly forum. The topics on the forum, however, are not limited to reviews and ratings of bingo websites. It can range from the best site to play free bingo to just about anything.

The primary aim of Bingo Hideout is to gather all bingo players in one site. Through networking, one can easily update and be updated on the latest offers of a bingo website or the latest news from your friend’s life. Meeting people in the bingo online community is one of the most enjoyable aspects of bingo playing, and keeping them is more fun! Instead of saying “goodbye, hope to chat with you again”, one can say “bye for now, update me on Bingo Hideout”.

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Friday, August 1, 2008

Dowry In Arrange Marriage

We are all familiar with the story : boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl gets married. For the majority of the western world, this is our ideal of a great beginning to a perfect marriage. It is important to realize that while India is very modernized in some aspects (i.e.. they lead the world in student's math and science scores and produce the largest amount of engineers in the world) they still keep to the tradition of arranged marriages. Marriages formed out of love AKA "love marriages" do happen in India but it is not the norm. It is an accepted fact that a person's family will play a role in picking the marriage partner.

While to many people raised in the west, this might sound odd. It is important to remember that in Indian society an arranged marriage is seen as an act of love. Since marriage is one of the most important decisions a person will ever make and because divorce is not accepted among most Indians, it is imperative that the marriage choice is carefully thought out and planned. How can a young person make such an important decision on his/her own? Instead, the family (usually the parents) look for certain traits in a marriage partner. Some desirable traits looked for in both male and female are: matching levels of education, matching cultures, close parental cities, matching religions, and matching vegetarians/non-vegetarians just to name a few.

Potential bride-grooms come under close scrutiny for several areas of the matching process. Do they have enough means to support the bride? Do they appear to be men who will make good husbands and fathers? Often, the bride will live with her in-laws after marriage in what is called a joint family. Because of this, the groom's family is also brought under close scrutiny. Do the women of the household seem well cared for? Do they have a big enough house for another person and grandchildren? Does the family have a good reputation?

Potential brides also come under scrutiny by the boy's parents. Since it is a commonly held belief that brides are the embodiment of that family's honor and pride, the girl must be from good family and have good manners. She should be respectable and have no taint on her name. Does she have the makings of a good wife and mother? Does she want to work after marriage or stay at home? There are so many factors to weigh, that I can not list them all.

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Saturday, July 26, 2008

Getting Married in India

India is a land of myths and customs, of mysteries and love stories. Often synonymous with anything that is exotic, getting married in India is very much a part of the lavish, exotic affair. Are you planning to get married? If so, you can make the most coveted moment of your life happen in this land of love and celebration - India. Full of life, vibrancy and unity amidst diversity, an Indian Marriage can add that touch of uniqueness in your life. Getting Married in India can be a pleasant experience as it offers you a choice of rituals from different religions and locales.

According to the Indian Culture, marriage is a sacred ceremony involving the presence of relatives, friends and family of the two individuals getting married. It is thought to be auspicious for the two people starting a new life to abide by certain rituals. These rituals invoke the gods and certain symbolic rites are performed to get the couple initiated into a married life. You can witness the extravaganza of the Indian marriage rituals by Planning a Wedding Tour to India.

Indian Marriage Rituals vary according to religion and culture. Mehendi and Peethi, that happen a day before the wedding, are more or less a general trend to be witnessed in most Hindu Weddings. This is an eventful day for the bride. Marriage arrangements include erecting of a canopy decorated with flowers, at the place of wedding. On the wedding day, various rituals are performed by both the bride and the groom in their own homes

Getting married in India entails a long and elaborate affair, with every step rooted in religious traditions, signifying various aspects of the life that is to follow after the marriage. Traditional Indian Wedding dresses are the dress code for marriages and are very much the cynosure in the great event, probably second only after the bride and groom. Indian wedding costumes are elaborate and are intricately worked upon. The embroidery and materials used are nothing short of stunning.

Friday, July 11, 2008

Tamil


Marriage. Marriages are arranged by elders, ideally by a sister and brother for their respective son and daughter. A girl is technically able to marry soon after the ceremony of her first menstruation, but now her marriage may be postponed a few years, and boys often do not marry until their twenties. The marriage is performed by a Brahman priest or by a caste priest in the home of the bride. Her family bears expenses and provides a modest dowry, though in some castes there is more bride-wealth given than dowry. Recently among educated classes the expectation of dowry has vastly increased, in line with the costs of education and the presumed benefits of the marriage for the girl and her family. Ideally a married couple sets up its own house, usually in the boy's village, but if necessary they may move in with the boy's or alternatively the girl's family until this is possible. Marriage is a religious ceremony and only a few register it with the state. Divorce is quite difficult for higher castes with strict social expectations, but separation and new alliances or marriages are common among castes whose prestige is not so damaged thereby. Widow remarriage is forbidden or rare among castes having Brahmanic values, but not among lower castes.

Domestic Unit. The average household size is five to six people, with preference for an extended nuclear family. It is not unusual for an old person or couple to live alone, especially if they have few assets. Occasionally there are joint families when there is land or a business to keep intact. Most Influential families also have a live-in servant or servant family. When Tamil men migrate to a city for work, they try to take their wives and children along, so there is not a severe deficit of females in Tamil cities, but this means that urbanized Families find their rural roots weakening.

Thursday, July 3, 2008

A Traditional Bengali Wedding

  • Aashirwad or patri patra is the confirmation of the marriage alliance. This ceremony takes place a day or two before the actual wedding. It can be conducted either in the bride’s house or in the groom’s house.

  • Decoration: An alpana (rangoli) is drawn and designs like lotus flowers or fish may depict various auspicious elements of the wedding. Besides alpana, a small banana tree is placed at the entrance of the house. Under the tree a copper vessel called mangal ghot is produced. The door is decorated with a string of mango leaves, which stays on for a period of one year after her marriage.

  • Vridhi Ceremony:This is the ceremony where ancestors are worshipped. This takes place both in the house of the bride as well as the groom.

  • Dodhi Mangal: This ceremony is generally done in the houses of both the bride and the groom at the crack of dawn. Then eight to ten married women bring water in a pitcher to bathe the bride and the groom. Then the bride and the groom are offered food. Fried fish, rice, curd and churiya are some of the dishes prepared. On the day of Dodhi Mangal, the couple are supposed to eat only this.

  • Wedding Piris: Piris are artistically designed and painted wooden planks usually done by a close friend or relative. The bride and the groom sit together on these piris. Conch shells are blown at the time when the newly weds sit on the piris.

  • Tattvas: Tattvas are the gifts that are exchanged between the bride’s family and the groom’s family before and after the wedding. The gifts that are sent to the bride from the groom’s house are called Gae hallud tattva. The gifts that go to the groom’s house from the bride’s house are called Adhibas Tattva.

  • Kubi Patta: On the day of marriage, a kubi patta is set up in the houses of both the bride and the groom. The altar carries three metal glasses filled with crushed rice, dhaan (grains) and khoi (pulses).

  • Snan: Snan or the bathing rituals take place on the day of the marriage when the bride and the groom are still in their respective homes. Eight or ten married women apply turmeric on the bride/groom’s body. After the snan the couple wear new clothes.

  • Sankha Porana: The ritual of wearing conch shells takes place in the bride’s house in the morning on the eve of the marriage. On this day the conch shell bangles are dipped in turmeric water.

Dressing up of the bride and the groom

  • A red Banarasi saree, a red veil, a mukut (head dress), gaach kouto and a silver kaajal lata. The bride wears the saree and the ornaments. Her hair is neatly tied into a bun and covered with a veil. The mukut is fitted on to the saree. Sandalwood is artistically applied to the face in the design of the mukut she is wearing. When she is ready, she is given the gaach kouto and the kaajal lata and lo presto the radiant bride is ready.!

  • The groom wears the dhoti and the kurta and comes to the bride’s house for the wedding. At the bride’s place he is given another set of clothes. He covers himself with the chaddar and wears the topor.

Friday, June 27, 2008

How to Be Funny

Many people believe comedians are born funny. Nothing is further from the truth. Some develop the skill as children as a method of dealing with school bullies, and the everyday anguish growing-up causes so many of us. Others began studying the subject after realizing how powerful a tool it is in entertaining and delighting an audience.

1. Help solve other people’s problems, and you build an instant rapport with them. Here lies the basis on which being funny germinates, and then later grows.

There is little difference in people. Make fun of your own problems, and an audience will empathise, mainly because they have very similar problems to you. By helping them to come to terms with their own problems you help them in dealing with, what can be for them, a difficult dilemma they would, under normal circumstances, prefer not to think about.

2. For those doing the laughing, and for that matter comedians too, humour is a great escape from reality. The comedian befriends an audience, much as a circus clown does with children. Here lies another clue as to what humour is – not is not so much to do with the words used but with vocal expression, character exaggeration, comic timing, and pregnant pauses so full of meaning.

3. The next time you watch a favourite comedian note how they are not afraid to laugh at themselves. This is because humour is a universal human activity that allows the comedian to become a philosophical spectator of his or her own life in relation to those they have around them. Listen carefully to the content of comedy, and you may notice that the most popular topics often revolve around friends (including newly formed quasi friends found in the audience), and family.

4. The props used by the circus clown to humour children are not so effective with adults. Scene setting, such as a public bar, is tolerated but it is the comedian’s ‘unique’ personality that must shine through. Have you ever thought about how many top comedians have similar acts? Non. Success in humour is about being unique.

5. Being funny is seriously hard work. Many that fail at being funny do so because they don’t work hard enough at it. Comedy is no different to any other skill. The ‘fortunate few funny folk’ having all the lucky breaks is nonsense. Luck plays little part in whether or not you are likely to succeed as a comedian. It was Gary Player who said, "The more I practise the luckier I get". This is as true in comedy as it is in golf.

6. Good humour never stops growing. It is a baby conceived in the mind of the comedian, that is nurtured to adulthood, and often only dies with the demise of the creator.

The best comedians are constantly reworking their best material. They may be at the top of their profession but they never stop asking the question "How can I make this mediocre story better?" Theirs is a quest for perfection that never comes.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Love Icons In A Romantic Relationship

The satisfaction of the heart is found in its enjoyment. It is the secret behind romantic relationships. It is a phenomena only understood by the two love birds involved. They feel like they are the only beings in this world. Were they in a capacity to stop the wheels of time, they would just pause the moment so that it can last forever. However, everything that has a beginning must definitely come to an end. A romantic relationship ends in a marriage relationship. It does not die literally speaking, but the obligations that come with a marriage setup cool down the tone. Otherwise if a romantic relationship as a love icon were to go on forever, then there would be no time for children. The human race would quickly disappear from the face of the earth.

Flirting is a powerful tool and a love icon that makes the best recipe for romantic relationships. A majority of relationships start with a flirt. Flirting helps to break the ice in those initial uneasy stages when the two strangers are all nerves. All marriage relationships started with flirting that became cosy with time. It is a love icon that stands out from the rest. When you identify a person who is interesting and appeals to you. Do not hesitate, approach the person with a starting line that is catchy and with the confidence of a veteran player. Keep the conversation light and be flirtatious without going overboard. You will cut yourself a niche in that persons mind as a guy who is interesting and fun to be with. Flirtation makes you to escape with many crimes. You flirt practically about every thing and in flirting you are excused.

Inner inhibitions are the factors that make majority of people not to achieve a romantic relationship. We pretend to act nice, formal, decent and reserved. It is only by coming out of this cocoon that you will understand the language of romance. If you want to become a love icon yourself, shed this old coat. It is normal to let go. These are not revolutionary ideas, but they have been tried and tested. Release yourself and be adventurous. Try new things and embrace change. Even marriage relationships that are full of this inhibitions eventually become very dull. Monotony especially in the bed room kills the sex life in such a marriage. Romantic relationships do not just happen, they are made. Concerted efforts are required by both partners in order to scale the heights of romance.

For romantic relationships to be successful. Trust must be well cultivated. Your partner must feel safe in your company. You must portray yourself as a person of good will and integrity. Be careful not to appear as a person with a character that leaves a lot to be desired. Strange behavior will only create suspicion. It will make your partner to remain on guard even in a marriage relationship. Trust is a true love icon. Coat it with a good sense of humor in order not to appear so serious.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Marriage in Indian society:

If you want to get a good idea about the marriage system of India, then the best thing for you is to see the movie “Hum Aapke Hai Kaun” by Suraj Barjatia. Though not entirely real, you can get a general idea about the traditional marriage system of India. The movie highlights arranged marriage. After becoming adult and getting a full time job, the parents of a son look for a suitable bride inside their religious community. After finding a suitable girl, they talk with the parents of the girl and fix every thing. The boy and the girl who may never have seen each other do not get much scope to know each other. The whole process of arranged marriage takes place under the watchful eyes of the guardians of the boy and the girl. Now days, the process has become a bit flexible. The boy and the girl may talk with each other for some time, may be a month or two or three, but they have to decide about themselves within that time. Compared to the marriage system in the west, this arranged marriage is totally the opposite. For more information about arranged marriage,

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Tips For Planning Your Wedding Event

The idea that I ran across is an online interactive wedding planner. With the amount of information that goes into planning an event of this size, it makes sense to have a place where you can keep the information that you have gathered and receive reminders on what tasks to complete according to you time line. These online wedding planners have a few different features. The first of which that should be mentioned is that they can be accessed for free. No additional cost is always a bonus, especially when you are working with a tight budget. These planners will facilitate your expense planning because they provide you with the ability to see how and where you could be spending your money, giving you an idea of expected costs for your big day. Online wedding planners also are a great place to store information on who you will be attending your wedding. You can carefully monitor RSVP’s which will give you an insight on how many guests are planning on coming. Through the use of these online tools you can manage your guest lists, by adding, deleting, or updating status of guests who have responded to your invitations. This is also a great way to remember who gave what at the wedding event when the time comes to write thank you letters. Online wedding planners can also provide a checklist of items which you will need to complete as you move closer to the big day. You will be in charge of managing this list, but some programs will provide you with reminders of things which are of high importance to your wedding. If you are planning on using an online wedding planner to help you plan your wedding day, be sure to do your research. There are many different tools that are available on the internet. As mentioned previously, some can be accessed for free; it’s just a matter of searching for the tool that best fits your needs

Friday, May 2, 2008

Traditions Of Indian Marriage

Before the wedding day

Bariksha (Variety-iksha probably) is when the parents of the support semi-officially showed that intentions that they want a detail toilettez, and grooming and its family were appropriate. The retraction at the end of this stage is wrinkled the eyebrows on but is acceptable.

Tilak makes take part the parents of the support travelling in the place of the groom to formalize the report/ratio. A great treat is organized by the family of the groom to celebrate this occasion. Only one nominal number members of the family of the support are the present (usually only very narrow parents, often in tens of numbers. Typically, the female parents of the family of the support are not present.) After this stage, the retraction of the proposal for a marriage is very rare.

Wedding ceremony

Varmala/Jaimala is the next phase of the marriage ceremony. In older times, varmala was a part of the main marriage ceremony. Practical considerations have forced weddings to take this new approach. Eastern/North Indian weddings usually take place late in the night, often starting at about midnight and lasting until the early hours of morning. The main wedding event usually is accompanied by the groom arriving with his family/friends in a procession called a Baraat (baa-raat.) Because the wedding ceremony is usually accompanied by a reception and a feast, the main marriage ceremony has been split into two parts. Varmala+Reception and then the more ritualistic part involving a priest.
Wedding in Bangalore, ritualistic part involving a priest.
Wedding in Bangalore, ritualistic part involving a priest.

Immediately after the groom has arrived with the Baraat, the groom and bride meet and exchange garlands in the Jaimala ceremony. Once this ceremony has finished, the well wishers congratulate the groom and the bride and present gifts to them. Food is served during this ceremony, and pretty much everyone except closest relatives leave once the ceremony has finished.

Vidaai

On the morning following the Varmala/Phere, the groom has a final breakfast at the bride's place, and the bride leaves her parents' house escorted by the groom. Traditionally, this phase is accompanied by the bride's family shedding many tears and throwing raw, white rice as she parts from the home where she grew up to start a new phase of her life. This part of the marriage ceremony is called Vidaai.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Ramayana: Victory of Virtue Over Vice


The Ramayana is an age-old Sanskrit ballsy attributed to the artist Valmiki and an important allotment of the Hindu canon. The Ramayana consists of 24,000 verses in seven cantos and tells the adventure of Rama, whose wife Sita is abducted by the demon baron of Lanka, Ravan.

Like its ballsy accessory Mahabharata, the Ramayana is not just an accustomed story. It contains the article of the actual age-old Hindu sages and presents them through apologue in anecdotal and the interspersion of the abstract and the devotional. The characters of Rama, Sita, Lakshmana, Bharat, Hanuman and Ravana (the villain of the piece) are all axiological to the cultural alertness of the world.

Morals in Ramayana

The abrupt account of the absolute Ramayana adventure by the academician Narada to Valmiki, forms the aboriginal sarga of Valmiki Ramayana. Narada lists the sixteen qualities of the ideal man and says that Rama was the complete man possessing all sixteen of these qualities. Although Rama himself declares "he is but a man", and never already claims to be divine, Rama is admired by Hindus as one of the a lot of important avatars of God Vishnu and an ideal man.

Sita is the wife of Rama and the babe of baron Janaka. She is the apotheosis of Goddess Laxmi (Lord Vishnu's wife). Sita is the apotheosis of chichi abstention and virtue. She follows her bedmate into banishment and there gets abducted by Ravana. She is confined in the island of Lanka by Ravana. Rama rescues her by acquisition the demon baron Ravana.

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

What Does A Woman Want In A Man?

What used to bother my mind back then has it's root in the topic of this post, 'what does a woman want in a man?' Each time I heard this question thrown to any young lady, the kind of response I usually hear saddens me.What used to bother my mind back then has it's root in the topic of this post, 'what does a woman want in a man?' Each time I heard this question thrown to any young lady, the kind of response I usually hear saddens me.

However, if you now take a sample of another hundred married women, you will discover that 50% of them did not really got married to the man who actually meet all these imaginary criteria, but are still happily married. At the time , the handful that might have counted themselves lucky for getting married to the man of their choice, may not necessarily be happy in their marriage

In view of the foregoing, what does a woman really want in a Man? Or rather, what are the most important qualities a woman should look out for in a Man? I think it is now important for the happily married Women to sit back and ask themselves this question again.
I hope they now know better and should be able to answer this question objectively. I am very sure their answers would now be different from what it used to be in those days of ‘ignorance’

Having settled down as a married Man with two children, I now know there shouldn’t have been any cause for alarm about those ‘Imaginary Criteria’ of those days.

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Common Marriage Problems

It’s interesting to note that more often than not when things go wrong it’s always ‘someone else’s fault’! So many couples seem totally unable to accept that common marriage problems and marriage problems in general are usually as a result of several contributing factors.

Common marriage problems rarely occur as a result of the actions of just one person. It’s very easy to lay the blame at someone else’s door and it’s easy to see why that might occur when you consider common marriage problems as a result of say adultery but even a cheated spouse often needs to stand back and consider their part in the whole affair.

Take for example a person who has lost interest in the intimate side of their marriage. Can you say they are totally blameless if their partner pushes the boundaries of the marriage vows and plays away from home? Some might say yes while others who are able to step back from the situation will see that adulterous behaviour can be as a result of common marriage problems such as lack of intimacy in a marriage. Adultery can be a symptom and not the cause of marriage problems.

Following on from the same example you can then work back from the lack of intimacy in a marriage which could be as a result of another common marriage problem such as failing to make time for each other.

If you are prepared to take the time to really consider the cause of an action such as adultery you will often find that in a large majority of cases there is an underlying root cause, perhaps a seemingly small common marriage problem that compounded to such a degree as to result in adultery.

That doesn’t mean that the partner who has committed the infidelity is blameless but what it does mean that they aren’t necessarily the only one at fault.

Saturday, March 15, 2008

How To Remain Strong In Marriage

The most difficult problem will be emotional. The loss of a loved one is always a shock and a strain. The problems here involved are so well recognized that we need only mention them. Other emotional problems are centered around the readjustment of your future.Such an adjustment is usually less difficult for a man. He can go on with his vocational plans, much as he had expected to do. If he is still under fifty or so he can usually find a suitable woman whom he can marry, and thus pick up the broken strands of his plans for a home and family.

The woman usually faces a more difficult situation. Some will have other opportunities to marry, and thus be able to continue their hopes and dreams. Many girls will not. The death of a lover or husband will end for them any chances for marriage. The loss of these possibilities will usually mean a rather complete readjustment of their vocational programs.If the girl has already been well trained to earn her living, as every girl should be, her vocational problems will be less serious. If she is not so trained, her vocational problems may be serious, especially if she is widowed with children to support.

How would you solved the problem of adultery?

This question, like the previous one, may raise an unpleasant subject. But it is one which you should face. Adultery is much more common than premature death. We urge that you come to a clear understanding regarding the sex standards which you expect of each other after marriage. A definite agreement on this point will give you a basis for a sound approach to the problem of adultery. Any discovered violation of your agreement will necessarily be serious. Yet like any crisis, this possibility is one for which you should be emotionally prepared, and intellectually have formulated some tentative policy.

An older view once commonly held was that one experience of adultery automatically destroyed the marriage. That position, fortunately, is no longer recognized as sound and it is important to recognize that a marriage which has been damaged by an adulterous experience can recover, and recover fully. If you face adultery your first responsibility will be to try seriously to heal the marriage, not to complete its destruction in the divorce court.

What if it is not a single slip, but a regularly established affair with someone else? Will you try to conceal this, or continue it with the knowledge of the other? What if you were threatened with divorce? Have you basically changed the moral standards to which you agreed at the time of marriage?If so, has this fact been brought out into the open, and adjustments made in the light of the changed situation? Or was your adultery an expression of hostility, an act of aggression? If so, have you reviewed the whole situation between you to determine the reason for the hostility, and what should be done about the total relationship?

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